Prompt & Present

What to ask for for Christmas when you don't know what you want

By the Prompt & Present team · Published

If you don't know what to ask for for Christmas, start from what you already use: a better version of something you use every day, a refill of something you get through, the next thing for a hobby you already have, or something you keep putting off buying. Then name the exact item for each one.

Where do I look for ideas?

You do not need to invent a wish. Most good answers are already in your week. Six places to look:

  1. Something you use every day that is worn out or annoying. Ask for the better version: the pan that sticks, the dull kitchen knife, the phone cable that only works at one angle.
  2. Something you run out of. Coffee, socks, golf balls, the hand cream you like. Ask for the good version of the thing you would buy anyway.
  3. A hobby or routine you already have. Ask for the next piece of gear, not a new hobby. If you run, think about what you run in. If you bake, think about what you borrow.
  4. Something you looked up and never bought. Check your saved items, open tabs and shopping carts. You already did the choosing.
  5. A plan that is coming up. A trip, a move, a new season or a new job each need things.
  6. Something to do, not something to have. A meal out, a class, tickets, a day somewhere together.

Start with two or three ideas from whichever places bring something to mind.

Is it okay to ask for something practical?

Yes. Research finds that people receiving gifts value usefulness more than the people giving them expect. People buying a gift tend to think about the moment it is opened. People receiving one care more about living with it afterward. A 2016 review of gift studies by Jeff Galak, Julian Givi and Elanor Williams put it this way: "givers primarily focus on the moment of exchange, whereas recipients primarily focus on how valuable a gift will be once owned."

A 2014 paper in the Journal of Consumer Research found that receivers put more weight on how easy a gift is to use than givers do. So the useful thing you would never wrap for someone else is a fair thing to ask for yourself.

Should I name the exact item?

Yes. A list works because it takes the guessing out. In five studies set around gift registries, Morgan Ward and Susan Broniarczyk found that close friends often strayed from the registry to show how well they knew the person, while more distant givers stuck to it and so chose gifts that better matched what the person wanted.

Our own advice follows from that: make each idea exact. Give the product, the version, and the size or color, so nobody has to guess the last step.

Can I ask for the same thing as last year?

Yes. In nine studies published in 2020, Julian Givi found that givers avoid repeating a gift far more than recipients want them to, because givers think a repeat looks less thoughtful and more boring than recipients do. If last year's coffee, socks or candle was a hit, ask for it again.

Can I ask for an experience?

Yes. In experiments with real gift exchanges, Cindy Chan and Cassie Mogilner found that experiences did more for the relationship between giver and receiver than objects did, whether or not the two shared the experience. Tickets and classes are worth asking for directly. A Prompt & Present list links to products on Amazon, so it covers the things, not the outings.

Is it okay to say "nothing"?

If you genuinely want no gifts, say that clearly. If you are only being polite, a few specific ideas from the places above will help the people asking.

How do I turn this into a list people can use?

Put it in one place with a link to each exact product, and send everyone the same link. Ask people to say in the family chat when they have bought something, because a shared list does not stop two people buying the same gift unless it marks what is taken. Prompt & Present lists do not mark bought gifts yet.

There is also a shortcut. If you have talked about your routines, interests or plans with ChatGPT, Claude or Gemini, it may already hold useful starting points. Getting your assistant to write your gift wish list takes a few minutes.

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